I think there is a lot of wisdom in this as ingredients for arguing:
"the belief that one’s stance on a particular subject is worth externalizing, the belief that your verbal sparring partner’s position is antithetical to yours, and the mutual agreement that both parties care enough about the subject as well as the other’s views on it to argue about it."
A lot of the breakdown occurs in the third part. The other party usually shows they don't care about your viewpoint.Does that mean the argument should not occur? At the very least the person in question needs to know there is a viewpoint out there, and if they transgressed or infringed based on their viewpoint. They should at least walk away with the thought (I know...wish in one hand, s in the other and see which fills up first) that maybe they should think twice about such infringement.
There was always that sitcom in the seventies where one member of a couple would unilaterally do something as a "surprise" for the other person without consulting with them, and it was something big like "buying a house" or "getting a dog" when the other person didn't like dogs. Something that the one thought was a gift...but should have really consulted before such an impulsive decision was made.
Once I stopped arguing with people who don't want to change their mind, my life improved significantly.
I think there is a lot of wisdom in this as ingredients for arguing:
"the belief that one’s stance on a particular subject is worth externalizing, the belief that your verbal sparring partner’s position is antithetical to yours, and the mutual agreement that both parties care enough about the subject as well as the other’s views on it to argue about it."
A lot of the breakdown occurs in the third part. The other party usually shows they don't care about your viewpoint.Does that mean the argument should not occur? At the very least the person in question needs to know there is a viewpoint out there, and if they transgressed or infringed based on their viewpoint. They should at least walk away with the thought (I know...wish in one hand, s in the other and see which fills up first) that maybe they should think twice about such infringement.
There was always that sitcom in the seventies where one member of a couple would unilaterally do something as a "surprise" for the other person without consulting with them, and it was something big like "buying a house" or "getting a dog" when the other person didn't like dogs. Something that the one thought was a gift...but should have really consulted before such an impulsive decision was made.
Haven’t won an argument since he was three months old.